Dear Vee,
I am in desperate need of your advice. I’ve been dating a guy for three years now. He lives alone, and I truly love him with all my heart. However, recently, I’ve been receiving calls from a strange number. Whenever I pick up, the person on the other end hurls curses at me, demanding that I leave her husband if I don’t want to die young. She says a lot of hurtful things, and I’m utterly confused. Instead of calmly explaining the situation, she just keeps cursing at me. I’m trying to stay peaceful, which is why I don’t engage in a shouting match with her.
Eventually, I decided to call her back and ask what I did to deserve all these curses. To my shock, she explained that she has been married for almost four years now. She mentioned her husband’s name, sent me pictures of their family, and made it clear that the man I’ve been dating for almost three years is her husband. My world shattered in an instant.
Heart pounding, I confronted him. Tears streaming down my face, I demanded to know the truth. He looked at me, eyes filled with regret, and confessed. He told me he didn’t want to lose me, which is why he never mentioned his family. He remembered that on the first day we met, during our conversation, I mentioned I could never date a married man. He feared losing me, so he chose to keep his double life a secret.
I feel like my heart has been ripped out of my chest. I trusted him completely, believed every word he said, and now it all feels like a cruel joke. For three years, I was living a lie, building dreams on a foundation of deceit. Every sweet moment we shared is now tainted by his betrayal.
What hurts the most is the realization that I was unknowingly the other woman. The guilt is overwhelming. I never wanted to be a homewrecker, and now, I can’t help but feel responsible for the pain his wife is going through. She didn’t deserve this, and neither did I. We both fell victim to his deception.
Now, I stand at a crossroads, my heart shattered into a million pieces. Do I walk away, leaving behind three years of memories, love, and promises? Or do I fight for a man who was willing to lie to both his wife and me to keep his double life intact? The thought of leaving him tears me apart, but staying feels like condoning his betrayal.
I am so heartbroken and confused. I need to find the strength to make the right decision, but my emotions are a tangled mess. I never imagined I would find myself in such a situation. Love should bring happiness, not this unbearable pain and confusion.
To everyone reading this, please, I need your advice. How do I move forward from this? How do I heal from a betrayal so deep? How do I make peace with the fact that the man I love is not who I thought he was? My heart aches for answers, for a way to mend the pieces of my shattered world.
Thank you for listening to my story. Your guidance and support mean the world to me right now.
Victoria Ibiama
