Dear Vee,
I’ve been in this relationship for four years—four long, exhausting years—with a man who’s hopelessly in love with me. Don’t get me wrong, I care about him, but honestly, it feels like I’ve been carrying the weight of his whole world on my shoulders. He’s sweet and devoted, yes, but he’s got problems—real deep-rooted ones tied to his past and the people back in his village. It’s like he’s cursed, stuck in some never-ending cycle of bad luck and setbacks. I’ve been patient, I’ve tried to help, but no matter how much I push, he’s just not moving forward in life. He should’ve married me by now—he says he wants to—but I know deep down it’s never going to happen. He’s heading nowhere, and I can’t let him drag me down with him any longer.
But now, something else has entered the picture, something that could change everything. There’s a man coming from the US this December, a man who’s serious about me, who’s ready to make me his wife. He’s not weighed down by all the problems that have been suffocating me for so long. This man is my ticket to a new life, a better life, and the plans are already in motion. Quietly, secretly, things have been progressing. Both families have met, everything is starting to align. It feels like fate is finally on my side, like the universe is giving me a way out of this stagnant situation.
I can’t just walk out on my current boyfriend without a reason—at least not one that I can live with. I need him to give me that reason, something concrete that justifies me leaving him behind. It’s not that I want to hurt him, but I need to create a situation where I can break things off cleanly and walk away without looking back. I’ve carried the weight of this relationship for too long, and I’m done. I deserve more, and now more is right in front of me.
And before anyone dares to judge me, before you start hurling insults, just hold your tongue. You think this is easy for me? If I were a man in this situation, nobody would bat an eye if I decided to move on to something better. Men drop women all the time when something better comes along, and no one questions it. So why should I sit here and let this opportunity pass me by just because I’m a woman? No, I won’t let that happen. I’m on the verge of something good, something real, and I’m not about to miss my chance. The US may not be a land of milk and honey like people dream it to be, but it’s a far cry from the suffocating situation I’m living in now.
My beauty, my charm, they’ve opened doors for me, and I’m not going to be foolish enough to let those doors close. I’m standing on the edge of a better life, and I’m going to take it with both hands.
Love? At this point, love can take a back seat. I’ve been let down by love too many times, and frankly, I’m over it for now. Right now, I need something more than love—I need a fresh start, a new beginning, and that’s exactly what’s coming my way. Am I making the right decision ?
