Dear Vee,
I met the father of my two daughters during a tough period when my father had taken a second wife, making our lives very difficult. He convinced me to take out loans to support his travels and help him get established, all while hiding the fact that he had been dismissed from his job due to forgery.
Despite numerous lies and deceit, I forgave him time and again, believing his excuses. The financial strain became so overwhelming that I had to drop out of a course I was passionate about. When he returned, he claimed his visa application was denied and told more stories that didn’t add up. I later remembered that his own father had warned me never to discuss finances with him or engage in joint ventures. Looking back, I realize how many lies I was too blind to see.
Now, I’ve managed to rebuild my life and am working to recover from the damage caused. I’ve chosen to forgive him for my own peace of mind, but I’ve decided never to trust him again or let him near my home.
Given everything that happened, what do you think I should do next? How can I ensure I don’t fall into a similar situation again? What steps can I take to protect myself and rebuild trust in my relationships moving forward?
