Dear Vee,
Why does my boyfriend always seem to turn our private conversations into a joke at my expense? I recently told him about my fibroids and the herbal medication I’m on, including the specific pot I use to prepare it. Yet, every time he visits and walks into my kitchen, he mocks me with comments like, “Still brewing up those roots, huh?”
I shared some personal details about my mom with him, and during a heated argument, he cruelly compared me to her, saying I have a “loose mouth” just like hers. Why does he feel the need to weaponize my personal struggles and use them against me?
When we talked about our plans for my father’s burial, which we’re saving up for and planning to hold in October after the rains, he had the nerve to suggest that instead of saving for the burial, we should have given him N1.5 million.
He even said that with that amount, my father might still be alive. Why would he choose that moment, while we were discussing the rise in flight ticket prices, to bring up such an insensitive comment? Is he trying to make me and my family feel inferior, or is he just mocking my challenges?
Despite asking him repeatedly not to use my personal information as fodder for his jokes, he keeps doing it. Should I stop sharing anything personal with him altogether? If I face future difficulties, should I just keep them to myself to avoid being ridiculed?
